Who Decides If You Are Normal? Vital Questions To Be Asked

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Here we are in October 2020, still waiting for an updated DSM  (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of  Mental Disorders.) Presumably, it will be called DSM-VI.

I have a mental disorder!

Can't wait because according to the DSM V, I am mentally ill!  Let me explain. I have various addictions. For example, I check my email obsessively.  This is no simple obsessive disorder and DSM VI may well include it as a mental disorder. That will mean 90% of the western population and they will all be drugged. I wonder what they will call smartphone addiction!  This is very disturbing.

The publication of the last DSM manual (Edition V) in 2013 caused a storm of controversy. Just in case you do not know, this is the so-called Bible which is used by psychiatrists and medical staff to diagnose a whole range of mental illnesses and disorders.

Do we all need to be labeled? 

The problem is that the net is being cast wider and wider to include every temporary, permanent disorder or mental stability problem. That can include bouts of depression, excitability, distraction, obsessions and of course the great favorite ADHD. It is no longer acceptable to be fidgety, excited, impulsive or even distracted in society. How boring!

Another problem is that people with Asperger's Syndrome (AS) were lumped in with a whole lot of autistic conditions and many people with Aspergers now fear they will lose their rights and privileges. They are now officially under the very big umbrella of Autism Spectrum Disorder. It is high time this was changed.

Don't lose your temper!

Look at how they are defining temper tantrums. They say that of the frequency and the severity are X times, then the child (or adult) may be suffering from DMDD. Now that stands for disruptive mood dysregulation disorder.  Try saying that and you will lose your temper!  These temper tantrums are of course abnormal but who is going to define what is normal and what is not?

Let us take another example. Eating. Now according to the DSM V says that if you have eaten far too much, like say, twelve times in the last 90 days, then I am afraid you have an eating disorder!

Do you tend to hoard things like I do? Well, join the club. You, my dear reader, and I have a hoarding disorder which is described as ‘persistent difficulty discarding or parting with possessions regardless of actual value’. The next time your nearest and dearest claims that an object ‘might come in useful one day’ ring your psychiatrist for an appointment!

Let us be serious for a moment.  Red flags have been raised and one distinguished British body, the Division of Clinical Psychology (DCP) which represent 10,000 psychiatrists have called for an end to overdiagnosis and especially want the words ‘illness’ and ‘disorders’ removed from the language of diagnosis. That would be a great first step.

Taking normality too far ...

Are we becoming a society of normal, boring, entirely predictable people who will behave according to the rule book, every single time? Who decides what is normal?  Why is every mental condition treated with psychotic drugs when there could be other solutions in cases where the severity of the condition really does call for treatment.

I am not saying that mental illness should be ignored. It just needs to be diagnosed and treated in a radically different way.

Now, I have decided not to check my email after writing this post. I will mow the lawn instead. Maybe I will be able to overcome my internet addiction without having to take a mind-numbing drug. Hope so!  And what are YOU going to do after reading this post?

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Why The ADHD and Sports Combination Always Delivers

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 Why should you ask your ADHD child to take part in any sport?  Can they always deliver as the headline claims?  The answer is always yes, provided that you choose the right sport for your child.  You also need to keep a few things in mind.

Problems to bear in mind

The first thing to bear in mind is that your ADHD child is having problems in the following areas:-

• difficulty in paying attention
• easily distracted
• short attention span
• finds it difficult to focus
• may have problems in concentration
• finds it difficult to follow instructions.
• prone to impulsive actions
• is hyperactive

In any team sports such as soccer, basketball and baseball, the team members really have to concentrate and focus. They also have to be alert at all times. They cannot easily be districted and if they are, the team may well lose!  This could lead to social exclusion and this happened to me as a child because I was simply no good at all at sports and I was ostracized.

As if that was not enough, there is a higher percentage of injury as well because lack of focus exposes the child to greater risks. These tend to be collision prone sports too. It is also well documented that ADHD children take longer to recover from injuries such as concussion. 

Which sports are best and why?

Those individual types of sports will usually suit an ADHD child better. We should always bear in mind what the child would like to do too as involving him in a decision like this is of paramount importance.

Generally, the sports which emphasise the individual as the participant and at the same time offers a competitive element are real winners.

Also, sports which allow plenty of contact on a one to one basis with an instructor or coach are also great. The list of sports which fulfil these criteria are:-

• swimming
• wrestling
• martial arts
• diving
• horse riding
• weightlifting
• running
• tennis

They have the added advantage of giving the child with ADHD a sense of intense satisfaction and gratification. The child can see the results very quickly and there is no long term goals such as waiting for a baseball match to finish to see whether they have won or not.

Choosing the right sport is always a winner.

Once we have chosen the right sport for our ADHD child, then we are on to a winner. The following benefits will start to kick in and your child and the whole family will benefit.

• great outlet for excess energy connected with hyperactivity
• children concentrate better after doing sports
• any exercise will mean less chance of obesity
• exercise will lift their mood as the endorphins start to kick in
• children who do sports are less likely to suffer from anxiety and depression

There are also lots of benefits such as social inclusion and sports always help kids to make friends. In addition, parents can be more involved too.

Sports and physical exercise always need to be a part of the whole ADHD treatment plan.